THE first man to give birth in the UK has warned against others doing it as it was “really hard”.
Talking about the highs and lows of having his baby girl, Trinity-Leigh, Hayden Cross said “I’m not going to lie it was really strange and there was a lot of emotions and a lot of feelings and I wouldn’t advise anyone to do it cos it was really hard, but if you do make sure you seek the right support.
He had decided to pause his transition and become pregnant after the NHS wouldn’t freeze his eggs.
Hayden, who was born Paige, became the first man to give birth last year revealed that despite being thrilled to be a dad, he wouldn’t advise others to do the same.
He said: “I don’t think I was ready at the time, 100 per cent but now everything’s just gone to plan, fell into place and getting on great.
“The NHS now actually support people with it.”
He appeared on Lorraine this morning to talk about his experience and his baby girl
Hayden explained he had to have a C-section when she was born, which he preferred as found the idea of giving birth difficult.
The 22-year-old said despite the difficult journey “it’s been great”, adding “I’m happy and my daughter is happy and that’s all that matters”.
He added: “We’re really close to my mum as my mum had a little boy around the same time.
“Our relationship is so much stronger now, I think it brought us together so it’s really positive.”
Of the tough pregnancy he said: “It was a really big battle but it was a battle worth it.
“I’ve had my top surgery done already and can have my bottom surgery when I’m ready.
“I want to go back to work eventually I want to try and set up my own business so in the future I can pass it down to Trinity.
“I need to make sure I’m living the right life and the good life for her.”
Hayden was brought up in Gloucester with his parents, sister Sky and brothers Jordan Robert in a three-bedroom home.
The 21-year-old was on the NHS gender transition process, which costs an average of £29,000, had been taking male hormones ahead of an operation to remove his breasts and ovaries.
But after finding a sperm donor on Facebook, he fell pregnant.
Now he has had his top surgery, and plans to have his bottom surgery when he is ready.
Hayden said he was bombarded with death threats from around the world after going public with his pregnancy.
He said he was trying to ignore “hundreds” of sick threats sent to him over social media – some from as far as India and Australia.
The 21-year-old said: “I have the best thing in the world now – they only have hate.”